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Sonika NEGI
These answers are written by men glorifying their mothers’ sacrifices. Saying that their mother is the best person in the world because of the sacrifices she makes.
They talk about how their mothers despite being a working mom wakes up at 4 am every morning to make breakfast and lunch for the family.
Goes to work.
Comes back home tired and helps the kids with homework.
Makes dinner and does her work until midnight.
Goes to sleep.
Honestly, I feel sad that women have to do that and angry to see men on social media platforms glorifying such practices.
When I was teaching in India, I was in my early 20s and my colleagues were in their late 30s or older. They used to talk about how exhausted they were due to their demanding husbands. The sad part is that they had to stay awake until midnight to do corrections, prepare for classes and wake up again at 4 am the next day to to cook for the family.
I suggested to my North Indian colleagues to make sabzis/dal and eat it with rice for lunch and rotis for dinner. While to my South Indian colleagues, to make chutneys/sambar and eat it with rice for lunch. Dosa or idli for dinner. Since that's what I do in Norway as I don't have all day to cook. The rice, sambars and dal can even be refrigerated for 2–3 days and it won't go bad.
But guess what they said ? Apparently their husbands expect freshly prepared food for every meal and won't touch food that's more than 24 hours old.
I suggested to them to get food from tiffin caterers or hire a cook since both of them earn well but apparently some of their husbands were even against maids, expected the wives to do all the work.
I was sad and disgusted to hear this. This sounds oppressive on so many levels because women shouldn't have to do all this. Like I was initially upset at my mother for not being that way, because a guy on Quora criticized me for my parents not being “sacrificial”. That's because my dad is supportive and we got food from caterers if none of us could cook. Since working people don't have all the time or energy in the world. When I was earning in a different city, we either had a cook or got food from caterers. Since we all earned well and we had that option we thought it would be a good idea.
But if guys glorify their mothers like this, it's honestly oppressive. That's why they end up becoming oppressive husbands to their wives when they grow up and they take zero initiative at home because they saw their mothers drain themselves to serve their families, meet their demands at work.
So they expect their wives to do the same.
I wish men would stop glorifying such regressive practices. Because it breeds a whole generation that further oppresses women in society.
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