1. Make a commitment to yourself
Make a commitment to myself,
To spend so much time improving myself and my life that I have no time for worry, judgment, criticism, whining and complaining;
To forgive, release and let go of my attachment to any past struggles and allow every challenge life sends my way to make me better not bitter.
Starting now, I make a commitment to let go of what’s behind me and start appreciating what’s in front of me;
To let go of all the pointless drama, all the toxic relationships, thoughts, and behaviours that are present in my life and to constantly shift my focus from the bad on to the good;
To make room in my heart for love, happiness, peace, and tranquility and to create my life from a place of infinite choices and possibilities – the present moment, and no longer from a place of limitations – the past
I commit to staying true to myself at all times and to never betray myself just so I can please other people.
I commit myself to give up on toxic thoughts, behaviors, and relationships but never on myself and my dreams.
Starting now, and starting today, I will begin rebuilding my life and make it ridiculously amazing.
Sincerely,
Once you truly commit to rebuilding your life and making it ridiculously amazing, nothing and no one will be able to stand in your way.
2. Forgive, release, and let go of past hurts and resentments.
Fill your heart with love. Forgive, release and let go. Not necessary because those who mistreated you deserve it, but because you do. Let forgiveness liberate you from your past. Allow it to take away all the resentment you have kept in your heart for all this time and allow yourself to fill that empty space with love, inner peace, and compassion.
If others mistreated you in the past it doesn’t mean you have to continue their work. Look how beautiful Mark Twain talks about this:
“Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.”
Step by step, release and let go of all the negativity present in your life. And trust that as you work on letting go of all the extra baggage that is weighing you down, you will begin to feel lighter and you will have a lot more energy to spend on rebuilding your life and making it ridiculously amazing. Plus, you will feel happier and more at peace with yourself and the world around you.
3. Embrace with grace all that you face
Shift your focus from the bad on to the good; from the pain on to the gain; from resentment on to forgiveness, gratitude, and appreciation. Appreciate everything life sends your way – no matter if good, or bad, and know that just as Melody Beattie said it, gratitude will help make sense of your past, will bring peace to your present life, and it will help create a clearer vision for your future.
4. Visualize your achievements and create your destiny.
Ask yourself the same question I asked myself a few years ago when I decided to let go of my attachment to my past and begin to rebuild my whole life: “If there were no limits to what I can do, be and have, how would my life look like?”
Let your imagination run wild. Dare to dream big. Don’t settle for less than you are worth.
The richer your imagination, the more beautiful your life will be.
“The power of imagination is incredible. Often we see athletes achieving unbelievable results and wonder how they did it. One of the tools they use is visualisation or mental imagery… they made the choice to create their destinies and visualised their achievements before they ultimately succeeded.” ~ George Kohlrieser
See in your mind’s eye the life you would love to live, the person you would love to become and the relationships you would want to have.
Feel the feelings that come from having all those wonderful things present in your life and allow those feelings to be with you at all times.
Follow the advice of the brilliant Neville Goddard, and choose to
“Disregard appearances, conditions, in fact all evidence of your senses that deny the fulfillment of your desire. Rest in the assumption that you are already what you want to be, for in that determined assumption you and your Infinite Being are merged in creative unity, and with your Infinite Being all things are possible.” Neville Goddard
Live your life from the end and act as if all of the things you need and desire are already present in your life. By doing so, you open yourself up to all the right people, ideas, places, and circumstances that are meant to help you turn your dreams into a reality.
5. Dreams won’t work unless you do
Act upon your heart’s desire. Do the things you need to do in order to get where you want to get.
Read the books you need to read, contact the people you need to contact and build the skills you need to build.
Find a mentor.
Ask questions.
Do whatever it takes to move closer to making your dreams come true.
Trust that with every step you take, your life situation will improve and you will slowly but surely begin rebuilding your life and make it ridiculously amazing life.
6. Take one step at a time
There is no need to rush. No need to hurry. And no need to struggle to make things happen.
“Rushing into action, you fail. Trying to grasp things, you lose them. Forcing a project to completion, you ruin what was almost ripe. Therefore the Master takes action by letting things take their course. He remains as calm at the end as at the beginning.” ~ Lao Tzu
Just take one step at a time.
Be patient and gentle with yourself while working on rebuilding your life, and remind yourself as often as possible to enjoy the journey as much as you possibly can.
7. Develop a deep trust in life
“Truly I tell you, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you.” ~ Matthew 17:20
Put your fears aside and dare to trust – trust yourself, trust the people around you, and trust the natural flow of Life.
Trust that you are not alone. Trust that you will be guided. And trust that whatever you need, Life will provide. Because it will.
8. Give yourself permission to ‘fail’
As you walk on this new path, chances are that you will fall down. Chances are that you will fail and make mistakes.
And that’s okay.
Allow yourself to make mistakes. Allow yourself to embrace your humanity. And seek to learn from everything life sends your way. Know that in every ‘mistake’ there is a lesson to learn and that each lesson will be beneficial to you as you continue rebuilding your life.
“There are no mistakes. The events we bring upon ourselves, no matter how unpleasant, are necessary in order to learn what we need to learn; whatever steps we take, they’re necessary to reach the places we’ve chosen to go.” ~ Richard Bach
9. Be good to yourself
Love yourself and be good to yourself. Take good care of your mind, body, heart, and soul. Exercise. Drink plenty of water. Eat healthy and nutritious foods. Nurture good thoughts. Act in compassionate and loving ways – towards yourself and the world around you.
Spend time alone in silence (spending at least 5 to 10 minutes per day in silence will help you feel refreshed, rejuvenated and renewed). Go outside. Spend time in nature – look at the plants, the sky, the stars, the moon and the trees.
Celebrate the beauty that surrounds you. Celebrate the miracle of life. Celebrate the beauty and miracle that you are!
10. Give up living your life to other people’s expectations
“The easiest thing to be in the world is you. The most difficult thing to be is what other people want you to be. Don’t let them put you in that position.” – Leo Buscaglia
Get clear on who are and what you stand for. Know what you yourself expect, of yourself.
Do the things that have meaning to you.
Live your life Your way.
Always hold your ground. And do your best to give up living your life to other people’s expectations.
11. Discipline your mind to stay present in the NOW
Don’t let your mind trick you into thinking you won’t be happy until you get where you want to get. Learn to be happy here and now.
Appreciate what’s in front of you.
Be happy with what you now have, what you now know, and who you are right in this moment.
Learn to honor the sacredness of the present moment. And know that by doing so, not only will you experience the incredible peace and serenity the present moment has to offer you, but you will also spare yourself of all the unnecessary stress, pain, struggle, and unhappiness that comes from resisting the present moment.
“As soon as you honor the present moment, all unhappiness and struggle dissolve, and life begins to flow with joy and ease. When you act out the present-moment awareness, whatever you do becomes imbued with a sense of quality, care, and love – even the most simple action.” ~ Eckhart Tolle
12. Surround yourself with loving and supportive people
You need positive and loving friends who will support you in your new way of life. So make sure you surround yourself with positive, cheerful, supportive, and loving people; people who can lift you up when you are feeling down; people who will turn on the light for you when you are in the dark; people who will inspire you to do better, and be better.
Take the advice of Mark Twain and,
“Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.”
Always remember that you, too, can become great.
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