What sucks about being on your age? How can you deal with your age?

I think I am gonna love writing this Blog.😀

I am 30 + and unmarried.

(Good point here is that I don't look my age) 🙂

😀😃😄

A Private employee in with a very good salary.🤣

I belong to a normal Himachali Rajput Indian family.😔

The problem is my mother's expectations from me, she wants me to get married to the Pretty Girl from same community.😊

Problem is that Girlss from my community don't attract me.😋

People younger than me are getting married.

Most of my friends or people known to me are getting married.😒

Whenever someone calls on my mother's phone, I get irritated because the girl on other side is surely gonna ask about when I am getting married.😠

I feel irritated.😬

I am independent still I am not because in Indian culture especially when you belong to a typical middle class family. You don't leave your parents' house till you get married.☹️

I know job is the thing when you get to move out the house but I am going to be in Mumbai till I retire.

Truth to be told…!!👌

I feel bad too because there is also a younger brother of mine, and we have age gap of just 13 months. (Good thing is that she is also a government employee) Somummy has to think of her too, if I don't get married how would he get married is the problem. I feel like a big buden to my family..😎

My father is no more so I really feel sick of myself that I am the reason behind my mother's problem.😂

I very well know, had my father been alive I would have been married by now, even my sister would have been. My mother thinks about this particular thing from time to time

And people do remind us about this thing from time to time.👍

Then my younger brother who is also doing good job and earning well, Bit lazy👊 But God's grace well reputed personality in our whole family and relatives. Sometimes waisting money because he is a brand consious type. He doesn't buy local brands, and careless about certain things. I always do care. People all around us are always inspired and give our examples to their kids. Our relatives give utmost respect to us especially my parents that they raised such good inteligent kids My mother also feels blessed that we are financially independent but sometimes she says things like.🙄

• I wish you people were not this educated.
• I wish you people didn't have goverment job.

That way You people would have been married by now.

I then quarrel with my mother that what is it with you.??😂

People are dying to get government job, people admire us and you are saying these rubbish things but at the same time I feel bad that how she would find a suitable girl when I am getting older day by day. Remember the Golden lines from a song picturized on Sharmila “Kuch toh log kahenge, logon ka kaam hain kehna” = “People will say something or other, its their job to keep talking” During our Engineering days we were taught a phrase 'Opportunity Cost’. The best thing about this one is you can apply to any situation and it fits right there.🤗

It is basically the cost of missing out an opportunity due to having another one. For ex: If you are living in Himachal then you are missing out on a vibrant city lifestyle like Delhi or Mumbai. But even if you move to Delhi to enjoy the same then you miss out a peaceful and laid back lifestyle of Himachali. 🙋

So no matter what you choose, Opportunity Cost will always be there with you. I hate all the emotional atyachar they do to make their wish true. The problem here is whenever i try to find any alliance from matrimony or somewhere the other person wants to talk to parents and who are totally out of the way when i say the girl belongs to other community or even in same community. 

Then suddenly out of nowhere she consoles herself saying

“You people have job"

“You people are independent”

“Everything happens on time"

She says just to console herself.

But I know deep down she is worried all the time.

Summary :— Whatever you achieve there is always something missing. You are never content. Life keeps on giving and snatching things but we just focus on what was snatched, what we lack.🤭

Thanks for Reading🙏

NEGI RK