Dating people who have been traumatized or abused in the past and who have not dealt with it.
We are supposed to be empathetic to the victims and give them every chance we can. After all, it is not their fault what happened to them.
This is the proper answer.
But not all people try, or even can, improve.
Hurt people hurt people. You have to be careful who you are vulnerable with, otherwise you will also be abused.
Some of these battles are worth it, but if you leave yourself open to someone with resulting personality issues, such as people who are not fully committed (out of self-preservation); play mind games (for proxy); continually make bad decisions; have addictive behavior; Or punish you for the actions of your wrongdoers - it will affect you in the long run, to say the least.
Collaborate or work with friends simply because they are friends.
I have been friendly with people and because of that affinity or mutual interest I have committed myself to agreements that ended in massive failures.
Some friends never fully paid me for the work, the people I have worked with had not cultivated a useful level of skill, and others would simply be unwary or empowered in contradiction to the effort they were putting in.
You must work with people based on their obvious skills, reputations, and comprehensive professionalism. If you happen to get along, then it's great and most of the time, you will.
Having sex with someone because you felt pressured.
Often times, women feel pressured to force in order to avoid confrontation, or "do what is expected of them," and men feel compelled to persecute, to avoid the humiliation of sexual inadequacy. These are tragic motivations for something so intimate.
You must understand that your body is yours and you determine your values and the situations in which you could share that experience, and with whom. Do not give in to external pressure.
This is your inalienable right, and if you are not comfortable with something, you should not give in at all because you are acting as if your feelings don't matter. You may think that you won't remember these occasions, but they persist.
If you don't stand up for yourself, who will?
Pursuing "spirituality" with a purpose.
Many people who pursue new age spirituality with a purpose seem to end up selling one of their ideologies, products, or become more confused. The illumination of this philosophy is often the "nothing", the "being" and the "not-me". This can be an impediment to self-realization.
Self-actualization is you as something defined, committing yourself to your talents and developing potentials. However, the spirituality of the new age portrays you as something indefinable.
This can result in the erosion of your ambition and ability to work on your skills to realize your potential. It can take away your motivation by taking away your sense of a hierarchy of values that allows you to pursue some things over others. Replace the vision of the future with the eternal present. Many people are caught up in liminality and indecision because of this.
The ego is the devil in this type of spirituality, which is really individual identity / personality as opposed to collective identity. A kind of tribalism that elevates animals over man, nature over civilization, imagination over concrete ... you will see that the defenders of this philosophy will dress in a tribal style that reflects this.
Challenging people's politics online.
Many things will threaten your online values, perpetually.
Unless it allows you to understand your position or that of others more resolutely, it is a waste of time. Most of the time others will not change their minds, so choose your battles.
Let's be honest, no matter how many "libtards" or "Nazis" you've destroyed, you were probably fooled, tripped over, or wryly responded to a satire article anyway.
Rant on social media.
The rants are emotional. The purpose is not necessarily to share carefully analyzed information, but to purge it. What sounds reasonable and effective when you're emotional is definitely not reliable to translate to those who are casually reading social media. You probably sound like an uninformed idiot who can't control himself.
He only embarrasses his future self.
Good speeches are usually suppressed contemplations by professionals who have analyzed a situation over a period of time, providing fertile ground to cultivate eloquence and understanding rather than spilling like hot diarrhea.
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